I left LJ last year shortly after I signed up for Facebook(FB). I found that most of the "friends" I had here on LJ had moved on to FB, so I thought that by joining FB it would help me be better connected to them.
I stopped posting here, because I felt my post were going unread, and ignored. I hoped that Facebook would be a bit better, since it was short thoughts, and Facebook didn't require me to type a long post, and I found most of my thoughts were not expandable past one or two sentences. I came to the conclusion that people didn't want to read long posts anymore. Their attention span just didn't have the stamina it once did, in this twitter world of 140 characters or less..
So, I jumped into Facebook...
I found a lot of of people on FB. Old friends, family members, even old classmates. Even my friends that I see on a semi regular basis were on there! Man this was awesome! I'm not sure that I was thrilled with reunited with some of these people, as some of them were not people I had anything in common with in the present.
So, I found my cousin, who only seemed to post about consuming alcoholic beverages, and post pictures of her at various bars and clubs, living a party girl life.
I found my other cousin, who just posted pics of her kids, and things she did with her kids, etc., and she also had the occasional post about beer. So with her it was either beer or kids.
As you can see, neither of them I could really identify with.
A lot of my friends from High School I find the same problem with. It seems they only post about their kids, pictures of their kids, etc, and not much else. Again, cannot identify with that....
Now, here is the most annoying part of facebook. I have 90 "friends" on facebook. I have actually met the good majority of these people in real life, and there is a mall portion of some others that I have only met online, but are really cool people.
I thought the point of being friends with people on Facebook was so that you could keep contact with them on a regular basis, rather than having that semi-annual phone call or email catching up.
I also thought that being "friends" with people meant that you actually care bout what they post, and acknowledge. Well, I actually read all my friends posts. I admit, I do have separate lists of friends to identify how I met them(because I have a bad memory), but that doesn't mean that I don't actually read any of those lists every few days. I admit, I do have some specific people on a daily read list. It's sad that we have got to the point of some friends being priority over others. It's such a awful thing, because I'm always wondering what list I'm on other friends accounts. Would I want to be on someone's "ignore" or "read if I care" list? Of course not.
I have taken people off my daily read list because either they posted a bunch of stuff I didn't care about, or they just seemed to be on Facebook to play games...and seemed to feel that everyone cared about their Farmville harvests. I'm sorry, I didn't.
I admit, I thought my game posts were relevant for a time too, but as I used Facebook more, I found they were more of a nuisance than "fun". I don't care what kingdom you have overthrown, what new weapon in Mafia Wars you need, or what cafe you have opened up... and the like, that's not my idea of communication.
We all like to think that every sincle thing we post is going to create a flurry of wonderful discussion, but it doesn't. Everything we post is sharing an opinion, or sharing something we feel is important. Perhaps that is not always the case...
In the past few months however, I have felt that I am on that "do not read" list. "Friends" don't comment on my posts, no matter the tone or subject. I wonder if i'm on that list because I post too much, or no one cares about what I post.
I just don't feel a point to posting there, since it seems that the posts go unread, unacknowledged.
I guess that trying to connect with people more has actually disconnected me.
When your income is lacking, it seems so is your social life. Friends just don't want to hang with people that are broke, or communicate with them on Facebook, I suppose.